I’m 16, she’s 14. She was at my house last week when my parents were out. She came on to me and the atmosphere got steamy. She started touching me intimately but I stopped her, because I felt uncomfortable and I know she’s under-age.
Last night there was another encounter. We were kissing passionately and she began to kiss my neck hard. We did stuff but didn’t go very far, because I’m worried about doing anything with her.
She left a large mark on my neck. I wasn’t aware of it till the next morning, when my big brother started teasing me about it. He’s 19 and he thought it a huge joke.
My mates at school started commenting on it and wanting to know every detail. I’m unhappy about it all and worried that that sort of love bite could cause damage.
Well, if it is a normal love bit, or hickey, it is unlikely to cause damage. They are a type of bruise really, created by sucking drawing the blood to the surface of the skin, and are usually more about letting other people know you’re getting intimate than actually expressing passion.
But if you don’t want this sort of attention, be clear with your girlfriend that you want no more love bites.
You are right to draw the line on what you do with her sexually. Having sex with anyone under 16 is against the law. There are good reasons, both physical and emotional, why it is better to wait until you are both at least 16 before having a full sexual relationship.